Let's review what I know about a book I haven't read....shall we?
The five love languages are:
- Quality Time- if this is your language, then you love spending time with people..."quality time"....whatever that means (you can see this isn't my language).
- Physical Touch- hugging, touching, squeezing....the idea makes me want to run for the hills.
- Words of Affirmation- you need to hear you are appreciated and special and important.....what a wiener.
- GIFTS - bingo! You got it. I love gifts. But what is cool about people who receive love through gifts is the gift doesn't have to be grand. In my case, if you gave me a roll of TP, and said "Here, I got this for you." I would feel the love.
- Acts of Service - I like this one too. HELP ME! I was having trouble deciding between this and gifts, then I learned you could have a primary love language AND a secondary language. Since this is my secondary language, I have decided to add Acts of Service to my Needs and Wants List (2008). You are so welcome.
So there you have it, the five love languages. If you want to tell me you love me effectively then buy me something, or help me out with the laundry and heavy lifting.
But more than that, I would appreciate it if you would keep your hands to yourself.
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How about posting comments on blogs of friends? Wouldn't that be a sign of love? I don't know, just a thought.
Yes David....I ALWAYS feel the love when someone comments on my blog. Uh oh, that means I need affirmation....what a wiener.
I read the version aimed at teens' love languages, and covertly tested it out on Leanna when she was 14. It worked. I know this sounds cheesy, but it not only worked, it was an INSTANT overnight change in her when, as the book says, she got her "love tank filled" when I applied it in "her" language - which is "gifts."
And you're right - it can be just a stick of chapstick, with a dash of fanfare - say a tiny ribbon taped on it - and she's filled to overflowing with the feeling of love. lol
I think all versions of the book have information that is simple to apply, but the effects are profound in helping in the way we interact with other - and that can't be bad, if it advances our goal of healthy open communication, right?
But women tend to read more of this type of book than men. I wish men would be just as concerned, enthusiastic and passionate about making their family lives better.
Generally, men seem to think that if it ain't broke, then it don't need fixing. But secretly, their wives or girlfriends would say that there is at least room for relationship improvement. If a wife strongly requests they try for improvement, men take it as a blow to their manhood or perceived authority. So, we as nurturers and peace keepers, coddle him while secretly suffering. Why is it usually secret? I can only assume it's to not hurt his feelings (feelings which are less like manhood and more like boyhood).
((Silent note to self: Why does it seem that lately all my discussions and reviews end up somehow with me in the man bashing mode? Hmmm.))
Um. Nevermind what I said about everything about men.
PS - Please respond with kind affirming words so that I can feel loved and weinerish. ;)
Just a taker not a giver........?
Cathern: What do you think my love language is?
Yearmon,
You probably are a quality time person...or words of affirmation. I remember one Christmas I asked you what you wanted and you said, "All I want are words." So that was the year I gave you a bible....get it? WORD! Weirdo. But we really don't see eye to eye on the whole Christmas thing do we, and now I can see why...it's all about love languages? Buh!
Cathern: Actually, I just read through a summary of the Love Languages and I'm still unsure about my top two. You know, I am not materialistic, but I do like small tokens of appreciation in the form of a card, a candy bar, etc. I'm not sure I would be able to come up with a long expensive list like some people I know, but little tokens do mean a lot to me. I think Physical Touch is one of mine too.
HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY CATHERINE HANNA!!!!
SEE YOU THIS EVENING AT THE FISH FRY!
I AM GOING TO HAVE A DOZEN ROSES DELIVERED TO YOUR HOUSE EVERY MONTH FOR A YEAR. WORTH ABOUT $35.00 BUT I KNOW YOU COULD ALWAYS USE FLOWERS MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE, RIGHT!!!????
LOVE YOU.........................
What a nice blog you have here! Personally, I'm really only fluent in the fifth language of love. I can speak the other four, but they don't come naturally to me. My wife, unfortunately, is fluent in all five. Luckily, she tolerates me.
Interesting photo album your cat has. I never knew a cat to get out so much, but he/she/it has a good eye.
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